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Old 06-30-2011, 08:23 PM
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Sheilds still holding part 3...

Well the saga continues but it looks a little brighter for our brave Captain and his valiant crew.

After dealing with the suicide threat I get a call from AW's social worker at the hospital. She would like to check out tomorrow(Friday) and they want some more background info.

So, I go into to the whole story, the booze, the pills, the fact that her father was an alcoholic and that this is going to end in divorce. She thanks me for the information, says they would like her to stay longer and if I really believe this is headed for divorce she recommends that I say something while she is in a place to help her deal with this information.

I make the call with my heart in my throat. We actually have a conversation where she is not only sober she seems lucid. I tell her that I can't go through this again. I want to divide up the finances and that this is going to end up with a divorce. I also talk to her about what I have been doing for recovery. Her response is to say she loves me enough to let me go and to thank me for still loving here. Codie wakes up and fusses a little but not too bad. I tell her depending how long she is in the hospital I will help out with the rental agreement but other than that I can't be involved.

It was emotional but I said to her that I iove her, I always will love her, but I can't live with her. I can't watch her go through another relapse.

At this point we agreed to work on splitting the finances, work each on our own recovery and move forward. I won't let hope cloud observations. I am going to hold off on the divorce while she is in treatment so she is covered by my health care but I made it clear the divorce is the destination.

She said she understood. We'll see but so far things look better than they did.

Your friend,

BTW, she is now staying until the 5th. Every little bit helps.
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