I think of it as:
Either your pregnant or not pregnant
Can you be just alittle bit pregnant?
Either your sober or not sober
Maybe this way of thinking, makes me narrow minded.
No, it makes you realistic. Either an alcoholic wants to live sober or they don't. There really isn't any leeway there. If they think they can drink a little, they're wrong. It's pretty much an all or nothing proposition. It takes some longer to realize that, but the choice they make once they do realize it, IF they ever do, speaks volumes.