husband
Don't worry about getting a sponsor right out of the gate. You'll find the right person at the right time. Alanon/Naranon meetings were very strange to me initially. But I kept going back and I now cherish my time in those rooms. It grounds me.
Stalin or Buddah? Buddah's a good choice.
I do ditto what Cece said though.......we take care ourselves first so that we are best able to provide healthy assistance to others.
gentle hugs
ke