I am in a healthy relationship with a wonderful man. He is not an addict or alcoholic--in fact, in so many ways, he's one of the healthiest (mentally and physically) people I know. I mention this because I wanted to put a healthy perspective in here for you. There are times in the 26 years we have been married that we have drifted or have felt a little distant from each other. But we always drift together again. It's a normal cycle in a relationship. I don't rush him and he doesn't rush me. Our love binds us together but there are times when a little (emotional and physical) distance is necessary and refreshing.
They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder.....and I believe it does.
When he pushes, I pull. When I push, he pulls. It's so much easier when we are both relaxed and allow each other to work our own issues.
gentle hugs
ke