Run. It's about you and your child. He's not clean. He's not in recovery. It's all lies and manipulation. He's making a joke of his AA meetings. If he thinks speed isn't using than who knows what else he could be doing. And it's totally messed up that he wants you to go to AA with him. People don't do that. It's not couple's therapy. AA is for him and Al Anon is for you. Recovery is something we do alone, not with our qualifier.