Originally Posted by
boogabstell 
First priority is our son. I do want him to be sober and clean, I do support him, however attending Alanon is helping but I do have a hard time sometimes understanding (I am very stubborn) the whole process. Yes I know I do need to get a sponser. Anyway thank you again for your opinions, it is a good feeling to know that I have support out there
I found Alanon/Naranon very difficult to "get" at first. I simply didn't understand it. Initially I went, bought tons of books, and soon after stopped going because I didn't "get it". Eventually, I went back. What I was doing wasn't working (by not going to meetings) and I was willing to keep going until I started to get it. And I eventually did.
They say "Keep coming back--it works if you work it" and it does.
gentle hugs
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