Reading this brings so many things to the surface for me. Im sorry he is trying to put this on you! As the others have said he is not sober!!
Him making you feel bad for not going to what he wants is his way of having someone else to blame, at least in my case it is that way. My XAH was so angry w me and still blames me for not supporting him by going to Alanon. I went to meetings when I could, but too had baby sitting issues. My Daughter was under 2 so I was able to take her a few. he didnt know i was here almost daily. But to him I was not supporting his sobriety.
You and your revovery and concern for your child is your importance.
)))Hugs((( and keep us updated