wywriter

THAT'S IT, you nailed it! My AH says the same thing (or variations thereof) all the time. When he's sober he goes out of his way to cook, clean, change diapers, and recently he knew I was getting more and more fed up with his drinking away all of the household finances and so he bought me a bunch of stuff I've been needing for a long time (I'm nearly legally blind and my glasses were so out-of-date that I was having difficulty driving, I was going to the Y for exercise classes three times a week with holes in my workout pants -- that meant I could only wear dark-colored underwear so no one could see them -- and so on). He always makes a huge deal out of how he puts everyone before himself, and how I should be so grateful to have such a great husband, and of course how cruel I am to wish to deny him "a beer" after a long hot day.