Originally Posted by
kittykitty 
Maybe Alanon for the wife. I feel like her trying to make a comfortable environment for her recovery is a longer way of saying 'manipulation'. I guess I can't tell if it's an actual boundary, or manipulation.
Guess it depends on why she's doing it. If it's for her own well-being, then it's a boundary. If it's "for his own good" then it's controlling. *shrug* Guess only she could answer that question.