Tinks65
One of the things I have learned in the process of my own recovery is that I cannot be the guardian of the relationships between two other people. I also have a daughter who does not talk to her brother due to the behaviors associated with his addiction. It is sad. She has dealt with her brother's addiction in a much healthier manner than I have and I have respected her right to seek counseling or not. Her choice.
I think if you've put the offer/suggestion for them to seek counseling......the ball is now in their court.
The best thing we can do for our healthy and for our addicted children is to be healthy ourselves. I'm working on that.
gentle hugs
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