Wow Haleymae, that is a lot to handle. Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up, or blame yourself for his problems, or think you're stupid. You are doing the best you can in an extremely, extremely difficult situation. You have made a great decision in joining this forum. The Newcomers board is great, I also recommend checking things out on the Friends and Family of Substance Abusers board, which you can find here:
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information .