I know I have tried the same thing looking for any opportunity to "educate" my AH, a couple of weeks ago I even posted here why can they see others alcoholism but not their own, I have since figured out it is not my job to "educate" him, because he don't see that he has a problem. So I have had to concentrate on my own recovery. It has not been easy, because when I say I try to fix things I mean it, we own a construction company together and up untill a few weeks ago I was the office/project manager, I handled all the schedules, and the problems and the money. So in order to focus on me and take my focus off him I had to turn over my responsibilities to him for now. That has been tough, but worth it in the long run. I know that I must focus on my recovery first and foremost. Alanon has been the best thing I have did for myself in a long time. Wish I had found it years ago.
They have helped me with believeing
I didn't cause it
I can't control it
and I can't cure it