Programs very but there is lots of structure and they are kept busy with groups, classes, etc. So your sense of time on the outside is probably different than his.
That is why focusing on yourself and keeping busy is the best way. I'm sure the place is used to family members who are concerned so try not to take the staff reactions personally.
The important thing to remember is that many patients have lots of unhealthy people in their lives on the outside (including sometimes family members) so it is as much to protect them from outside influences. Sucks for those of us who have never enabled and have always been supportive but that is the reality.