Lady,
I'm going to "what if" with you based on the average alcoholic.
What if he never takes your bait and admits he is an alcoholic when you try to get him to?
What if he continues behaving the way he has been?
What if his alcoholism gets progressively worse?
Is that an acceptable relationship and/or life for you?
It may be. You get to decide that. But if its not, what can you do to take care of you? To decrease your stress? To detach from worrying about him cutting back or figuring it out?
Its time for you to put you on the front burner. What do you want in life? How do you want to be treated? What can you focus on in your life?
He may listen to you one day.
He may miraculously cut back.
Chances are, he won't. That's just the way of alcoholism.
So what if you LET GO of trying or even wanting him to get it
and focused on you?
Check out Melody Beattie's Codependent No More. It really helped me.
We're here for you!
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