Kopfan,
There are many recovery programs available -- AA, SMART, LifeRing, Rational Recovery. I think face to face support is essential. The SR Forums are great and are available 24/7and there is something about a smile, a hug and an understanding look that is priceless.
I learned that alcoholism is about more than just not drinking. Not drinking deals with the physical aspect of the illness. I needed to deal with those pesky mental obsessions and the emotional fallout from my illness too.
I attend AA and it has given me a new life and a way of living. The fellowship is great. As a result of working the twelve steps, the mental obsessions around alcohol and drinking that I had been plagued with are gone. I don't want to drink anymore.
I would encourage you to check out some AA meetings. They are widely available in just about every community. Now about those extra twenty pounds (sigh) ... you may find that you lose some weight by not drinking. If not, you know what to do.
Susan