Interesting topic.
I never found an active alcoholic sexy or attractive. So I can't wrap my brain around how the ones who are still drinking can be so convincing.
I didn't have instant soul mate feelings for the RABF becausewe were friends first years ago. His alcoholic life got going much later on, when I wasn't around.
It was a connection, yes. A deep friendship, yes. Unique in that way but I am not a firm believer in soul mate because we grow and change as time goes on.
I do remember though when I first met him all those years ago that something sort of stood out in my memory about him and he had a special place in my mind but I had no idea it would lead to where I am now.. never in a billion years.
There always should be chemistry and intimacy in a good relationship. I couldn't fall hard for someone I had zero chemistry with on an intimate level. Intimacy and great sex though are two different things to me.
I am a hopeless romantic so i guess someone could be your soulmate but your soul can change
