My MIL is definitely family, she's actually pretty amazing. I guess I could have phrased that sentence as I'm my dad's only family. It really is just the two of us. I'm scared of what would happen to him if I cut him out. But I have my husband and his family. His dad, mom and brothers are all amazing.
I didn't want to put this in the family forum because I don't want to bring them down. Like you guys are trying so hard to help your loved ones. But hey look at me I f***ed up and I'm my dad's mini me. Screwing over people just as much as he has. I dunno maybe I'm thinking about this as too black and white.