Thanks for the validation that these choices don't appear to pass the smell test for a great start to recovery.
I haven't started a recovery program for myself. Wish I had years ago since I need some serenity in my life. Dealing with him AND an extended family that has coddled and enabled him whenever I tried to implement some tough love, has left me depleted. I'm so sick of being the bad guy and I feel like I've spent a lifetime trying to stay one step ahead of this battle. I long for peace and serenity.