KRA, alcoholics live in a state of denial. They project their faults on to other people so they don't have to take a real look at themselves.
Alcoholics lie, alcoholics manipulate people and alcoholics don't care about anyone but themselves. Until she is ready to get better on her own she won't. There is nothing you can do about that, you have no control over her getting better.
What you do have is control over your getting better. Find some Al-anon meetings and start attending, visit SR as often as you need to and pick up a copy of 'Codependent no more' by Melody Betty. It is a real eye opener.
I'm sorry to say there are no happy endings with active alcoholics.
(((hugs)))