Originally Posted by
Lunakim 
he does not beat me or ever get physical with me. We both say harsh things to eachother out of anger but appoligize the next day or whenever. .
From what I have read in your posts so far is this guy is emotionally abusive. I was married to a guy like that. Over the years I was his verbal punching bag. There were days, more days than I can ever count that I WISHED he would haul off and punch me, just once so I could have a solid reason to leave. I could finally have society's PROOF he was abusive. Because, like you, I figured real abuse is black eyes and broken bones. Guess what? Emotional abuse is WORSE.. The very fact that it is hidden and unseen makes it more insidious and damaging! It changes who you are and you become a shell of the person you once were. It sucks your spirit dead.
Real love doesn't hurt, and it doesn't make you cry.