Tally,
My favourite part of the mail is "you focus on you and my faults will disappear". Such a cop out.
It wasn't a cop out it was a prediction. When you finally did focus on yourself his faults, as well as him did disappear.
Sometimes they see us better than we see ourselves.
My AW during her last binge and I think she was blacked out at the time, asked "Why are you leaving me?" It was like a punch in the stomach. I didn't know that deep down I had already decided to leave and when she said that it became crystal clear.