Wow!!
Ah that's the thing, that some of what they say can be right, but its embedded with manipulation, lies and their own denial and ego. I mean if EVERYTHING was total BS it would be easier to disregard it as the ramblings of a madman. But no, the 20% that may be true or have some wisdom makes the other 80% look like maybe its true as well ...
Madness its all it is. Funny how mine also said my AA retreat was stupid and made fun of me when I was excited about it... I should have kicked him in the b***s right there.
I am also well-versed in identifying toxicity. The most recent one was an email from, who else, my DAD. Victimhood, martyrdom, manipulation, "look how much I do"... ah, the gift of clarity