Originally Posted by
Lunakim 
I appreciate all the kind words of advice and all the options you have given me.
I am going to take this day by day. I am a co-dependent person and have a lot of recovery myself. I tend to get upset and sometimes violent when he pushes my buttons. I am excited to start Al Non.
Lunakim;
it is likely you are are very kind, sweet, and caring person, codependents often are lovely people. Lovely people do not deserve "alcoholism codependent hell"
All the love kindness and caring in the world will not make an alcoholic see the light, as you and I once/now thought/think. If it did many alcoholics would be cured from loved ones kindness and love.
To the contrary, the kindness, caring, love simply enables the alcoholic to progress more smoothly.
"hindsight is 20/20" I pray that you may benefit from all of our hindsight.
We have already been in your shoes
Yes, the water is warm until you discover how DEEP it is.
Big hug