For some reason, posts like this trigger me. I'm not sure if it's because I almost feel like I can somehow stop history from repeating itself. It's like I wish I could go back in time and warn my mother. I'm watching a movie and I already know the ending. I want to scream at the screen and persuade the characters to make different choices.
I wanted to add to my original post that I do understand how hard this is. I got married later in life and spent my twenties and early thirties going from one emotionally unavailable man to the next. I never went after the ones who treated me well. I always wanted a challenge. So many relationships that were almost "perfect". So many boys/men that needed me. I thought I could change them and then our lives would be better.
Recovery taught me that I was picking these men for a reason. Working on me helped me realize that I can only change myself. I now walk away from bad situations. I don't have to settle for something less.
Everyone deserves a happy ending.
Please take care of yourself.
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