Originally Posted by
JACKRUSSELLGIRL 
is it fair of me to treat my AH differently than other A's in my life?
LaTeeDa nailed it - this isn't about fair, it's about choice. You choose not to live your life tethered to someone who is an active alcoholic. I assume these other people are relationships or acquaintences that are of an "arms length" nature where it is possible and normal for you to not spend most of your time, money and emtional capital invested in ther life choices.