hi kepler-
if you don't want him to come back, that is your choice. it was hard for me in the beginning to begin making choices for me. i was so used to taking care of him and putting out the fires he started.
in the beginning, when faced with a choice or one of his demands, i used to ask myself "what do i want?". this was a good practice for me. i knew what i wanted but oftentimes, it went against what xABF wanted. i began slowly making decisions in my best interest...
you boyfriend is in rehab and they will have resources for him when he gets out...outpatient programs, sober houses, therapy...and there is always AA for him...
he's a grown man. let him stand on his own two feet. you've got enough on your plate without a third child (him) to take care of. true recovery is a long process...spare yourself the front row seat...
naive