Thanks to all of you for your help.
Lightseeker- Thanks for answering all of my questions. I appreciate you taking the time to do that and I appreciate your answers. You are right about many things, I was vunerable when I met him. I met him three months after my dad passed away. I also remember him saying things that I thought didn't make sense but I ignored them. He also is very good at hiding it, and I guess that is just part of it, or it comes from practice. I was on the public train today and I just started crying. It was a good cry one I felt better after so that was good. I look forward to a day when this is all in the past. I am in the process of trying to rent out my condo, so he won't know where I live. That is his main way of contacting me, there or mailing me. I don't respond to his e-mails so that will eliminate any contact.