Originally Posted by
Keplar 
He is the kindest, gentlest, thoughtful, witty, intelligent man I've ever met when he's sober. But he's a monster drunk. I hope he gets better.
Yep. this is what makes us so compatible with alcoholics. We as a species seem to have an amazing ability to forget about all the ridiculous behaviors and tell ourselves how nice our spouses are.
But the unfortunate reality is we are simply living in a delusion of our own. And hoping for a future that will never happen. That hope seems to bound us along.
Would a normal, well balanced person put up with this Jekyll and Hyde behavior for more than 10 minutes? I doubt it.
What would it be like to be with someone who was similarly kind, gentle, thoughtful, witty, and intelligent....ALL THE TIME?
Good question I think.
It is unlikely he will get better. They seem to have an equally amazing ability for self destruction. It could happen. It's possible.
Just unlikely.