wife is driving me crazy
When my wife and I hooked up 14 years ago, we had alot in common. We both did the same kind of work, we both liked star wars, we both laughed at the same jokes and invented some along the way, we supported and stood by each other through good times and bad.
She told me stories about how her mom, aunt and uncle were all alcoholics and made her life a living hell...things she had to put up with and witness - screaming, fighting, neglect, abuse, the whole nine yards.
A few years into our marriage we began drinking socially with our coworkers and then began keeping a bottle in the house. eventually the bottles wound up being emptied and replaced quicker and quicker. We both realized that we were starting to drink to much and admitted it to each other. We both stopped, had a child, and then the pattern began again. we both admitted there was a problem. This time, however, I'm on permanent disability with medication. She's using that as an excuse to continue drinking more and more. She thinks I get a kick from my medicines - they're for muscular dystrophy - they don't make me high. But she insists that since she's the one who has to keep working that she deserved her booze at the end of the day to help her with her aches, pains and stress. She's said that if I get my pills then she should be entitled to her nightly hooch.
So, you can imagine how it's turned out. Alomost every single day after work, and all day on weekends and holidays, she gets liquored up. She always says "yes I've has a little but I'm not drunk." She's also been picking up booze on her way homke from work and hiding it, drinking it in secret, and I can tell when she starts talking. She gets on a subject and won't quit. Sometimes its everyday stuff and other times its outlandish or even offensive stuff (one time she was convinced she had an epiphone about God's "libido'). It's like a feedback loop and she wants me to agree with her over and over again. If I don't agree with her she berates me and picks at me until I withdraw and hide. LAtely this behavior has turned more from a one-sided conversation to picking, baseless accusations and finger-pointing. on things from where did the remote go to where did our son's dependent SSDI benefit check go. For the paycheck, she accused me of losing it and then of stealing and hiding or spending it. SHe was so persistent that she had me questioning my own memory and wondering if I actually took it. That was a week ago. Today I found it crumpled up in her pants pocket on the bathroom floor.
As far as my son goes, he's 6. I'm vigilant not to let her do anything inapproprate in front of him. When she gets bad, I take him out and get him away from her drunken dramas. He's starting to take notice though of how her personality changes when she starts drinking. This summer she insisted in enrolling him in day camp even though I've said that I'm home all day and would like to spend the time with him. Later in a drunken stupor she admitted that she doesn't want him to spend more summer time with me than with her, like she got jealous that I was able to spend time with him as a stay-at-home dad before he started kindergarten. I want to go in and cancel the day camp but now she's convinced him that it will be more fun than "staying home with Daddy".