The difference between me and those who are not codependent is that they clearly recognize the danger and step away. I, on the other hand, feel drawn like a moth to the flame to step in and try to help/fix/change the problem and make everything better.
Just like an alcoholic can see the harm booze is doing and yet cannot stop without help, I needed help too to be able to deal with my life in a healthy, rational manner.
If we all saw things clearly and did the right thing, not one of us would need to be here.
Until that happens, please save me a seat front row centre, because I need to be reminded every day what it is that keeps me balanced.
Hugs
P.S. Don't worry, I had lots of pissy mood days. They got fewer as I grew in my recovery.