I was always looking for external relationships to make me feel good, all through my life.
In recovery, I finally discovered that when I did the work I needed to do, I began to like who I was, and I felt ever more comfortable in my own company.
Personally, I think we need to reach that stage first before looking beyond to another person.
I needed time alone with myself, to work out who I was, before I could offer myself to anyone else in any kind of lasting relationship.
I know it's hard when you feel lonely, but there's no rule that says we have to do all this alone.
I think it's important we reach out to others - friendships are important sources of support.
But I'm glad I waited before looking for something more than friendship and I think my partner is too.
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