When I was growing up, my mother use to praise this way...."You did a good job, but......" There was always a 'but'.
I did not even realize it at that time. It was not until I had my first, really serious job and my Boss said to me "You did a good job". I waited..I waited..I waited...there was no but!!!
I always give everyone a break, except me. I've learned to do better. My son's addiction rather tossed me backwards for a bit. Thanks for the reminder.
hugs
sigh