I have a terrible problem with the "Shoulds". I deal with them by putting them in perspective. Which shoulds can actually be accomplished?
I should have a spotless house. This is impossible. What is possible is picking up after myself everyday so the house stays a bit neater.
I should exercise everyday for at least an hour. Once again, not possible unless I quit my job. I just set a goal of walking with my boyfriend and the dog for about 20 minutes a day. I normally go above this goal and feel great about it.
Like Ann wrote, I guess I take baby steps and shuffle towards my ulitmate goal.