Originally Posted by
GoodKarma 
Can excessive drinking and smoking cause ED?
yes
Originally Posted by
GoodKarma ...we have not had sex in over a month now.
so you're still in the early stages
Originally Posted by
GoodKarma ...he is 47 years old and I know the testosterone level starts to decrease..
yes, it does, and with the drinking/smoking, it drops faster
Originally Posted by
GoodKarma Anyone else ever had this problem?
Both this problem, with my AH now, and the opposite problem with my XAH, who was in his late 20's when we were married (I was in my early 30's) and who wanted to be serviced the way he wanted to be serviced, when he wanted to be serviced - which was all the time. And yes...like you...Hey, look at the trend, XAH and AH. (Sigh)
Originally Posted by
GoodKarma ...He has admitted that he is an alcoholic, but he has no interest in seeing a doctor or quitting drinking and smoking.
I'm sorry. You said if that's the life he wants, he can live it without you in it. Does that mean you are going your separate way? If you do, he may try to get you to stay - and I get that you didn't see this coming - we're not mind readers, after all. Things happen that change the course of our lives.