That's great advice Peter.
Welcome to the recovery forum Nina. You sound just like a lot of others here. We move ahead by taking small steps. We increase our awareness, go to meetings, learn about the disease of addiction and slowly change our focus from them to ourselves. We learn to let go and detach with love.
Please read the information on the boards and vent anytime you want to. We're here to support you in your journey.
Hugs,
MG