I know first hand how the what ifs can drive you crazy, I have been on a long week of them, what if he would go for help would it work for us, what if I tried just one more time to talk to him about his problem would it do any good. The list goes on, it is tiresome. I did try to talk to him last night, with kindness and understanding, my head still hurts from banging it against that same ole wall. At the first mention of alcohol he said "Oh we are back to that again?" I just gave up and did some reading starting with Serenity Prayer over and over till I got over my anger. Now it is decision time for me.