I am in the same boat. It is not easy being a mom to 2 small girls but the peace I bought by leaving is worth it. I still have my crazy days but SR is really helping. We are here for you! My experience was that AH bargained for quitting too. "If I quit for x months then I get to....." Or "I quit for x months so that proves I don't have a problem." I may be wrong but it does not sound like he is realizing he has a problem...yet. Take care of you and those precious babies and try to let him manage his own issues while you figure things out.