Welcome Cin.
I'm new here too but i understand how you feel. its hard to know what is enabling and what isn't.
I may be right and I may not be in saying this but focus on yourself.
only you can make you happy, and that's what you should do.
put yourself first. detach.
You will find alot of things here that will help you see things in a different and help you be a stronger person for it.
Welcome to a great support base that can help you through this.