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Old 05-26-2011, 09:17 AM
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Boundaries are "I will/will not" statements and let go of the outcomes.

Attempts to control usually begin with "you will/will not" and attempts to manipulate other people's behavior.

"I will not have phone convos with anyone who has a tendency to hang up on me" is a boundary. The caller is free to hang up or not. If he hangs up, take responsibility and stop answering the phone when he calls. Problem solved.
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