It is so hard when the great memories pop up but I find that if I do not dwell on them for too long they pass. For me, if I think about them for too long it just makes me sad and I am afraid I will backslide (that is what I have done in the past). I enjoy them for the moment and try and move on. I try and think of my future and the new great memories I will make because I want my memories(our happy life together) to also be my current life and with an active A that will never be. It sucks, but for me it is time to move on and those memories can keep me stuck (past experience). Although, I will always treasure them and he will always have a special place in my heart. We just were not meant to go the distance and I feel this awful disease did that too us.