Originally Posted by
StarCat 
XABF has always been convinced that me stating how I feel (kindly) is abusing him, while him screaming and yelling at me and telling me I'm worthless and throwing things is okay because "he didn't mean it."
The world according to XABF:
Honesty = Abusive; Lies = Good!
or, to put it in different terms:
StarCat = Wrong; XABF = God
And to think I actually used to believe his stories!
Been there done that about a million times!!! LOL. Actually, I would express my feelings and then came the statement of fact that I was abusing her, not treating her well, and was being nasty (because of what I said).
We never discussed my feelings -- only HOW I said what I said. Never the subject, just the delivery.
Boy, did I get conned on that one. LOL.