One of the boundaries for my RAH to be able to return into the home is that we have separate accounts and he pays a portion of money toward the bills (rent,food,utilities). Bills are a huge trigger for me and it has helped out tremendously having that boundary. It is also nice when he pays for "extra" things with his own money (movies,dinner,etc.) It has also given me practice in resisting "urges" to meddle in his business or "help out".