Hi Roadie.
I am new here day 8. I have had a lot of day 8's over the years, never longer than six months. For now I am happy where I am.
I think many of have struggled with the guilt and shame. I gave up on that. I decided it wasn't helpful, and I agree the task is as much about learning to live sober as much as it is giving up. Trying harder keeps you in the struggle.
I am still learning but I do think the 'I surrender' part is the first step and is an important one to maintain- it's one of the ways smarter beats harder.