Thanks Naive - I will check it out. I so value your advice - you have such good advice. Money is ok right now - I am in IT and get paid ok and I am quite prudent - I will check out the youth hostel.
I am again rethinking my decision about going ahead and filing for divorce. Maybe I should have just moved out of state (east coast) to be near my sister and stayed at her house for a little while (she offered) - so AH wouldn't try to come live with me and the kids. I just didn't want to prolong this marriage anymore (and get into legal trouble vis-a-vis taking the kids out of state) but looks like AH is going to make this very ugly.