The relationship with Mother is strained. We plan and pay for the trip and send the info e-mail to the Mother. We are fortunate that she trusts us with the safety of her children. AS does not pay child support, so we do get the kids school clothes. I think that may have something to do with it.
Maybe we should let her know our concerns without talking badly about our son. Really, she should be able to make the decision, not us.
Two years ago, our son was arrested while the kids were here. We called Mother right away and let her know. All she said was "Oh, ok." And that was about it.
Maybe, what I asking is.....would this be enabling son to see his kids. Maybe, not seeing them would make a difference in his addiction???? I do know that he loves them very much but is unable to care for them.
Just asking......