Separate finances
Reading some of the threads regarding finances makes me wonder how many of you do/did not have joint finances? My ah and I have been married almost 11 years and have never had joint finances. It was always a sticking point because he wanted us to have joint finances. The way I see it, he wanted it that way because it would be more money for him to have fun with. I would have considered having joint if he was responsible with money, but his needs always came first (beer, cigs, going to the bars etc).
Anyways my friends always looked at me like I had three eyes anytime I mentioned finances since ours was separate. They almost acted like I was selfish for having them separate. There was just no way I would let him run us into the ground (which is exactly what would have happened). Is joint finances the norm?