guilt is a useless emotion...so i rather grieve the issue....the A has not changed, he is not the person i once knew, i grieve of doing this all on my own, i have to independent because the A is not, i grieve the kids because its their father that i once loved and cared for....
nothing will change...but i will! and i grieve the past and the what if's and i should haves....
thats how i deal with guilt...i grieve