I have to agree with lillamy, although I am pretty traditional and also stinging from a marriage that never got started because of alcohol, so I may be projecting a bit. But taking the BIG steps one step at a time - albeit a bit out of order - sounds reasonable to me. Just like we don't need to have all the answers at once, we don't need to do all the actions at once. Engagement is a nice commitment without going the extra legal step just yet.
Pre-nup...check with an attorney in your state. What you describe sounds a lot like how my state works already. Everything pre-marriage is separately owned while everything accumulated during marriage is joint.
Congratulations!
Last edited by Tuffgirl; 05-13-2011 at 07:25 AM.
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