well, i related to this thread all too well. i know the reality, i have the tools, but i have fear i guess. i too set the boundary but it insidiously breaks down. things have been better for me, but i fall for the words and sink a little.
i remember- it does not have to be all at once.
like some of the posts said, i start to believe there is a way to make it work. and it will to an extent, but then things get weird again. i know there needs tobe considerable clean time. i know that. i know she is not working a program. i see the actions that dont match the words. i take one foot out but the other stays put. i'm only in week 2 of therapy so im not expecting much yet.
i guess i just had to say this thread really hits home