Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
i think a hallmark of codependency is how LARGE we allow the "other" to become in our lives. it's like "they" become this huge filter that every moment of our day runs thru......every thought, action, thought OF action, even our feelings first run thru the sieve of THEM.
Yes, that's exactly how I see it. I recently told my counselor that I feel like if we are both balloons in a room, his balloon takes up almost the whole room, squishing me down into a corner. It's partly his big personality, his (what I believe to be) narcissism, and it's a lot of my own pull willingness to take some of the air out of my own balloon, or not walking out the door in the room.
Good one, Anvilhead.